Hakim Sahib (with a calm smile):
A good question, mashaAllah.
But let me ask you something first—
How would you feel if someone you trusted deeply,
someone you respected,
broke your heart one day?
Me:
Honestly? I’d feel destroyed.
Hollow. Betrayed.
Like something precious inside me just cracked.
Hakim Sahib:
SubhanAllah… then how can you break someone else’s heart—
and still expect to live a peaceful, purposeful life?
Me:
I don’t get it, Hakim Sahib.
Could you speak more directly?
Hakim Sahib:
Let’s think about it together.
How many people do you know
who were in love before marriage,
but ended up marrying someone else?
Me:
A lot. Way too many.
Hakim Sahib:
That’s the reality of today.
Two people fall into love—
but life doesn’t always go as planned.
Sometimes families disagree,
sometimes life pulls them in different directions.
And when that love breaks apart—
it breaks the heart with it.
Sometimes both hearts.
Sometimes one walks away fine,
and the other is left bleeding silently.
Now tell me,
is breaking someone’s heart a minor thing?
Me:
No…
Not at all.
Hakim Sahib:
Exactly.
It's easy to start a relationship.
But what comes after—the heartbreak, the guilt, the trauma—
that’s not easy.
Some go from one relationship to another…
breaking hearts, collecting wounds,
numbing themselves without realizing it.
Do we really think that leaves no mark on our soul?
Me:
That’s true. That’s deep.
Hakim Sahib:
That’s why Allah ï·» gave us marriage.
Not to restrict love…
but to protect it.
To make it sacred.
In Islam, you don’t fall in love—you build love.
First comes commitment,
then affection…
with Allah’s blessings showered upon it.
Love that’s grown in light—not in shadows.
Me:
Got it. No heartbreaks before marriage.
Hakim Sahib:
SubhanAllah.
Even if you feel sure that someone is your future spouse,
you still shouldn’t get into a romantic relationship with them.
Why?
Because you don’t know Allah’s decree.
You don’t know if they’re truly written for you or not.
But you do know one thing:
Hearts are fragile.
And Allah is Just.
🌿 Final Reflection:
In a world that glorifies love stories before commitment,
we often forget the aftermath of those stories—
the quiet heartbreak,
the broken trust,
the wounds that never fully heal.
Islam doesn't cancel love—
it teaches us to honor it.
To guard it.
To wait for it to bloom in the right season,
under Allah’s sky,
with His permission.
So if you’ve ever loved before marriage—may Allah heal you.
If you’re tempted now—may He strengthen you.
And if you're waiting with sabr—may He reward you with more than you ever imagined.
Let your love begin not in secret…
but in sujood.